Just recently, I was asked by a journalist I know if I wouldn’t mind asking some of my Brides if they could share a little insight into their thoughts, fears etc on their up coming wedding! I have to say I had a great response and some great answers too, so thank you ladies very much appreciated x

Now this one particular reply struck me right between the ribcage and I just wanted to share it all with you because its just so lovely.

Thank you Nicola for letting me share xx

Hi Courtenay

Firstly, I suppose, I am pretty delirious to be marrying the man who not only makes me laugh every single day but is there for me and my children in thought and deed.  Do I believe in the word “soulmate” ?  Yes I do now. When I was stressing last week that there were probably three thousand wedding dresses out there at the moment and I couldn’t find one I really liked as I thought they weren’t special enough, he said to me “darling I just want you to wear a dress which shows off your beauty – that’s what I will be looking at”.

My main worry (can’t admit this to anyone, even my husband to be or the bridesmaid, who is my best friend) is that I will be worrying until the last minute that the gorgeous organza ribbons haven’t been tied on to the napkins properly or that the flowers, cupcakes and sweetie table won’t be totally colour co-ordinated, despite my rather rigorous preparations!  As you may have guessed from this, I am rather a “hands on” person (!)  Oh no, will I be the only bride the venue has ever known who leaves her own champagne and canapes to check the staff have stuck to the seating plan and placed the favours in the right place?  Ghastly thought.

As I am organising the wedding I am also struck at regular intervals about how lucky we are that our children all get on so well together.  You hear so much about “blended families” and the tensions sometimes present but I can honestly say we haven’t had a problem and our children are all happy for us.  My day will be complete to see all of us together with some of Courtenay’s gorgeous photographs to remember the day by.  The only sad point for me is that my parents and James’ father have all passed away in the last four years so will not be with us.  I try not to think about this too much as its too upsetting.

Of course, there are other little worries – will my 17 year old son agree to wear a morning suit, will  James’ mother be well enough to attend (and will my sister-in-law be happy to share a room with her that night!) and why oh why are favour boxes from the US so much nicer than our own; I have yet to find a company which will ship them to me.  Haven’t given up yet!  Then there is the fact that we have several (usually adorable) toddlers and pre-schoolers in the family who I think will find the heady cocktail of a pre-Christmas family occasion with lots of attention, chocolate and a late night rather hard to manage.  Could we have had the wedding without them – I think not, but hope we won’t regret it!!  And I know that everyone says everyone having breakfast together at 9 am the next morning will be fantastic, but will it?  Really?  I think there will be several sore heads and grumpy children amongst the 54 of us who are staying over so wish us luck …

Lastly, when I am dozing off at night amidst thoughts of ivory roses, champagne or prosecco etc. I look at the man next to me and think I would marry him anywhere – that’s when I stop worrying and go to sleep.

Hope this is okay Courtenay – amazing what comes out when you start thinking

Nicola x

Simply beautiful!

Dorset Wedding Photographer – Courtenay Photographic Ltd